why do we as humans feel this incogitable insecurity when it comes to the opposite sex?
why do we fear being too 'available' or 'easily attained'?
why cant when one person likes another, just SAY it-throw it out there- protrude it-text it-scream it-show it-sing it-write it?
and, god why, why has it become so socially unacceptable to be the instigator if you don't own a set of gonads?
possibly because we have convinced ourselves that asserting even the slightest omission of feelings towards someone will be met with the hurricane that is non reciprocation. it's everyone's fear, even if they do not display it cognitively-lingering deep down in each confession, each text, each word is that little voice telling us all that this is 'taboo.' this application applies in double for girls; were suppose to be the chased, the unattainable, the holy grail. but in saying so i've also heard numerous guys claim "i hate when girls play mind games."
and this is where it becomes nonsensical...
so you want us to appear unattainable even if we like you, but you don't want us to play mind games. correct me if im wrong-but isn't playing hard to get-i.e: the chase, a mind game in itself?
isnt that hypocritical in the highest extent?
imagine the world where people scrapped their inhibitions, laid it out like it was, put it bluntly:
i like you.
i want to date you.
i want to spend time with you
i think your a great person.
...these are all also acceptable.
however, we usually spend an abundance of our time with this person we undoubtedly "like" pretending we don't, in fact, "like" them.
and, to further my solidification of how ridiculous this concept is... if we are successful in making the other person think we are actually unattainable or that we aren't the least bit interested-one of two things will happen, they will either cave and admit that they are interested in us and pray that we reciprocate that feeling or they will be so dumbfounded, confused and frustrated that they will imminently believe you are actually unattainable and in this realization they will merely pull away from the situation all together.
so you have a 50/50 chance of "getting what you want."
ri-freaking-diculous if you ask me.
but in saying that...its not like i go against the rules of this totally offside game. i play the part, hell im on the starting line. i chalk it up to previous experiences, when in fact, im just terror-stricken to put myself out there.
if we text them first, we seem too eager.
if we answer phone calls, texts, bbms quickly, were too available.
if we suggest hanging out, were clingy.
..in guys opinions, that is.
ever thought we just said fuck it and decided to go for it because we refuse to waste our time playing infantile games or because we have discovered you will never be assertive enough to do it yourself?
dont get me wrong, i love my solidarity. i do what i want, when i want, how i want to. but when i see potential in something or someone, i want to explore it, experience it...regardless of the outcome, and im sure im not the only one with this incentive. who knows what will come of it? it could end before it even begins if it ends with no retribution or it ould result in an amazing, life altering communication. but how are we suppose to do this when this puerile ideology of how were 'suppose' to come together is still in effect?
so i suggest this: we just go for it. put it out there. say fuck the rules. be honest. put a seriosu kabosh on the mind games. embrace feelings and opinions. screw the fears. call someone up; sober, drunk, in despair, in a moment of courage and say: i fucking like you. deal with it accordingly. refuse to be discouraged-no matter what the outcome. take charge regardless of what society tells us is okay and not okay. live in the moment.
as my dad always says: if you dont try-you automatically fail.
and this girl refuses to fail.
why do we fear being too 'available' or 'easily attained'?
why cant when one person likes another, just SAY it-throw it out there- protrude it-text it-scream it-show it-sing it-write it?
and, god why, why has it become so socially unacceptable to be the instigator if you don't own a set of gonads?
possibly because we have convinced ourselves that asserting even the slightest omission of feelings towards someone will be met with the hurricane that is non reciprocation. it's everyone's fear, even if they do not display it cognitively-lingering deep down in each confession, each text, each word is that little voice telling us all that this is 'taboo.' this application applies in double for girls; were suppose to be the chased, the unattainable, the holy grail. but in saying so i've also heard numerous guys claim "i hate when girls play mind games."
and this is where it becomes nonsensical...
so you want us to appear unattainable even if we like you, but you don't want us to play mind games. correct me if im wrong-but isn't playing hard to get-i.e: the chase, a mind game in itself?
isnt that hypocritical in the highest extent?
imagine the world where people scrapped their inhibitions, laid it out like it was, put it bluntly:
i like you.
i want to date you.
i want to spend time with you
i think your a great person.
...these are all also acceptable.
however, we usually spend an abundance of our time with this person we undoubtedly "like" pretending we don't, in fact, "like" them.
and, to further my solidification of how ridiculous this concept is... if we are successful in making the other person think we are actually unattainable or that we aren't the least bit interested-one of two things will happen, they will either cave and admit that they are interested in us and pray that we reciprocate that feeling or they will be so dumbfounded, confused and frustrated that they will imminently believe you are actually unattainable and in this realization they will merely pull away from the situation all together.
so you have a 50/50 chance of "getting what you want."
ri-freaking-diculous if you ask me.
but in saying that...its not like i go against the rules of this totally offside game. i play the part, hell im on the starting line. i chalk it up to previous experiences, when in fact, im just terror-stricken to put myself out there.
if we text them first, we seem too eager.
if we answer phone calls, texts, bbms quickly, were too available.
if we suggest hanging out, were clingy.
..in guys opinions, that is.
ever thought we just said fuck it and decided to go for it because we refuse to waste our time playing infantile games or because we have discovered you will never be assertive enough to do it yourself?
dont get me wrong, i love my solidarity. i do what i want, when i want, how i want to. but when i see potential in something or someone, i want to explore it, experience it...regardless of the outcome, and im sure im not the only one with this incentive. who knows what will come of it? it could end before it even begins if it ends with no retribution or it ould result in an amazing, life altering communication. but how are we suppose to do this when this puerile ideology of how were 'suppose' to come together is still in effect?
so i suggest this: we just go for it. put it out there. say fuck the rules. be honest. put a seriosu kabosh on the mind games. embrace feelings and opinions. screw the fears. call someone up; sober, drunk, in despair, in a moment of courage and say: i fucking like you. deal with it accordingly. refuse to be discouraged-no matter what the outcome. take charge regardless of what society tells us is okay and not okay. live in the moment.
as my dad always says: if you dont try-you automatically fail.
and this girl refuses to fail.
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